Mentor or Friend? Who is the most concerned with your future goals?
I just returned home from an amazing weekend in Toronto with over a dozen fitness pros where we had a private, closed door mastermind.
It was an “invite only” event put on by my great friend and mentor, Vince Delmonte.
I have to admit, the caliber of people at this event make me a little nervous and intimidated me quite a bit.
When you’re hanging out with guys that you look up to like all-natural bodybuilding legend Skip LaCour, Biggest Loser trainer Brett Hoebel, and worldwide YouTube sensation Mike Chang, it can make you feel a little inadequate at times.
“A mentor is only concerned with brightening your future”
But if there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years…
There are two different ways we grow, learn lessons, and acquire wisdom:
1. The mistakes we make.
2. The mentors and leaders we follow.
And following a mentor is MUCH less painful than making a bunch of unnecessary mistakes.
So that’s the big question I have for you today.
Do you have a mentor?
Whether it’s your health, your career, your family, or even your spirituality we all need positive role models to follow and mimic.
A Mentor make the difference between poor health vs. great health, pain vs. pleasure, loss vs. gain, deterioration vs. restoration.
But remember, your mentor is hardly EVER going be one of your friends or buddies.
– Your best friends love you the way you are. They are comfortable with your past and your present.
– Your mentor is only concerned with brightening your future.
– Your best friends tend to ignore your weaknesses.
– Your mentor REMOVES your weaknesses.
– Your best friends are your cheerleaders…and this is
a good thing, but…
– Your mentor is your accountability coach. And that’s
WAY more important.
– Your best friends usually see everything you do right.
– Your mentor identifies what you’re doing wrong, then
corrects and encourages you.
THIS is how you grow and learn.
THIS is how you’ll make faster progress.
THIS is how you’ll maximize your full potential on this earth.
Additionally, you’ll have fewer regrets in life.
Plus your mentor will “see” things you
simply cannot see.
This will help you prevent a thousand headaches, avoid dozens (if not hundreds) of mistakes and save you from a LOT of unnecessary pain and suffering.
BUT — you have to make a conscious effort to seek out and find mentors in areas of life that you want to succeed.
Even though various mentors will enter and exit your life, keep searching for them and they will appear.
It’s just how the “Big Man” above wired the world.
-Ask and it shall be given.
-Seek and ye shall find.
-Knock and the door shall open.
THAT’S why my business partner Ryan and me push ourselves out of our comfort zone and spend time with the folks who are light years ahead of us.
It’s the only way we’ll continue to learn and grow as people and as a company.
What about you?
Are you using a mentor or coach?
If not, it could be the missing element keeping you from getting a flat belly and reaching your full potential.
Having the right support system around you is critical to achieve consistent fat loss or any goal in life.
I’ll end today’s newsletter with one of my favorite quotes from author Marianne Williamson because it ties in so well with this message:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
I truly believe that consistently using a mentor or accountability coach is the best way to overcome our fears.
Like my good friend Vince always says, it’s the secret to “living large”.
So always remember this Proverb:
“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that seeks counsel (mentors) is wise.”
Keep going strong.
Shaun “Live Large” Hadsall
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